|Posted on June 3, 2019 at 11:05 AM||comments (0)|
My name is Kyung, I’m a healer & coach and I’ve been helping courageous individuals restore their inner light, divine spark since 2009. I am the creator of holistic healing meditation program and also the author of 7 holistic practices for harmonious living, a self healing journey to freedom. My intention today is to share with you my findings on this journey so far.
You may be wondering, Freedom from what? I mean Freedom from anything that is keeping me from being and feeling my best in this moment and doing my best knowing that all is well and that all my needs will be met today, and my desires, if not today, tomorrow or someday in the future but most importantly knowing that we are all dearly loved as we do so for each other. And any discomfort we may be feeling right now will pass when we work on healing it.
In my self healing journey, I found that practice of yoga, meditation, taichi/gi-gong, dance and martial arts are all very good in that besides being fun, they helped me to create space in my body & mind, becoming aware of my thoughts and emotions in my state of being so that I can discern the right action to take at any given moment, so that I can be in touch with my intuition, my inner guidance.
And I also found that the way I see (or perceive) this world proceeded all that followed in my life experience, so the idea of envisioning a world where everyone thrives was born.
And now, you may be wondering, everyone thriving? Yes, I mean, we can imagine and envision everyone being alive and doing the best one can or being the best one can be and that may be very different from one person to the next.
As divine sparks, no matter what condition we are in human form, we are divine light beings of pure love, pure joy & pure peace, way beyond this physical form, but at the same time, we exist in duality on earth; in light & dark, good and evil, masculine & feminine, rich & poor, sickness & wellness, love & hate, inside and outside, and we may notice how unique each and every one of us is in this human form, each with unique talents or gifts, and each one facing unique challenges, yet we all experience this reality through our physical senses in the same way by seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, touching and feeling. We each have unique likes & dislikes and tend to gravitate towards like minded people, towards those who support our views, and turn away from those who do not. And, we feel good when others agree & support our views but not so good when they do not. When this happens we are identifying ourselves with being in this limited human form and the thoughts & emotions that arise from being attached to all that we are by being human, by our needs & desires.
So in my healing journey, rising beyond good & evil meant, first accepting all that is as is, including myself and everyone around me, as I am and as they are, thereby healing all that is not at ease within myself at any given moment. This has helped me in discerning that which I can and cannot control, so that I can choose to focus my attention on that which I can control. Whenever I find myself unable to do so, I embrace myself, embracing duality that is within myself, to heal and let go.
And as I did so, I realized that the reality I was experiencing was my own creation and that I had the power to control my life experiences, that I could rise beyond duality that is within me, and awaken myself from the world of black & white to a colorful world of diversity, beauty and abundance.
Join me on our self healing journey to freedom, let us envision a world where everyone thrives!
PS This picture was actually created by my 8 year old granddaughter, Berlin, coloring the truck pattern inspired by the pictures of colorful trucks from Pakistan.
|Posted on February 18, 2018 at 10:20 AM||comments (11)|
Prayer for the victims and families of Florida tragedy
May all who are grieving find the deep love and compassion for themselves to heal and let go of their attachment and know that your loved ones who are lost in the tragedy are all ok in their energy and spirit, know that they are with you to guide your way to spread joy and compassion.
May all those who are blaming themselves or others for this tragedy, forgive themselves and others.
May love, joy and peace prevail on earth forever!
|Posted on February 13, 2018 at 1:40 PM||comments (0)|
Gift Exchange - sharing our passion, talents and abilities to the fullest
The idea of Gift Exchange came to me when I started envisioning a world where everyone thrives. Living in a world where everyone is leading a fulfilling life doing what they love, that is, sharing their passion, talents and abilities that they choose with the world and meet their needs and desires at the same time, and spreading joy & compassion in the process.
After our first gathering for the book launch, it became apparent that there are mixed understanding and interpretation of the word “gift” and that there is a need to clarify the meaning used in the "Gift Exchange" before moving forward with it.
According to the English dictionary, the word “gift”, has two or double meanings that is at the source of this confusion;
- the first is where a gift is something, time or material, that is given without compensation, and
- the other is where a gift is somthing you possess within yourself, your passion, talent or abilities that you love to do, be or create
In Korean, there exist two completely separate words to describe the two different meanings so there is no confusion there. The 선물 is to mean those goods or services that you give or receive for free while 재능 is the ability you have that you are good at or you enjoy doing, being or creating.
It is the second meaning that the word “gift” is used in Gift Exchange and Gift Exchang Circle. It's confusing in English because the term or phrase “Gift Exchange” is typically used as the first meaning. And here is another example to hightlight the difference. When I was growing up, whenver someone gave us a gift, 선물, my mother always made sure that we repay them by giving them a gift in another form of similar monatary value so in that sense, for me, the 선물, the gift received for free is never free because it always creates that obligation to pay back. Whereas the 재능, the gift (passion, talent or abilitiy) I share, I feel I deserve to receive the best that life offers and enjoy all that comes my way with gratitude, knowing that all my needs and desires are being met, and spreading joy & compassion in the process.
A Gift Exchange circle is a group coming together with intention to share our gifts, i.e., passion, talents and abilities and meet our needs and desires at the same time and spreading joy & compassion in the process. For some, they may not have specific needs or desires at a given time, and that is the desire in itself, i.e., desire to offer their gifts, talents and abilities without anything in return, it is one’s choice or decision, and not the rule or expectation of the group. As we express ourselves, through the circle, describing the details of our gifts (passion, talents and abilities) we choose to share with others (along with our needs & desires, if we choose to share it), we get to hold that space for each other for healing and creation, envisioning that which is being expressed through the circle.
Now the next item that needs clarification is "Gift card", the term used in "Gift card categories". The gift card is widely used today both in electronic form and plastic card form by retails stores and other businesses offering goods and services. The gift cards are generally purchased by the sender/giver of "gift" to give to the receiver as a present and the receiver can use it in exchange or payment for the goods and services offered by the business that issued them. For DSA, our intention is to allow individual members to be able to issue their own gift card for their gifts (passion, talents or abilities) that they choose to share with others while corporation members can bring the gift cards that they purchase from their employer to exchange with other members through DSA GiftXchange. You can be both members of DSA, individual and corporate, if you choose.
The Divine Spark Allies project is to create a mobile application using the latest technology that can provide the role of Gift Exchange Agent (GEA) that can capture what we specify as our needs & desires along with our gifts, talents and abilities we want to share with others, and provide us with the gift exchange option that we can accept or reject. Once accepted, the GEA is also to capture the feedback or review of the gift exchange results, and provide the complete record of transactions for periodic reporting and audit purpose for each participants.
The gift categories that is proposed to be used are given in Appendix-I of my book, Seven Holistic Practices for Harmonious Living, a Self-Healing Journey to Freedom, available in paperbacks and eBook on Amazon.com.
For more details on the next Gift Exchange Circle check out the webpage for the latest event.
And let us affirm: "I am sharing my gifts, talents and abilities to the fullest and living my dreams", So it is!
Kyung S. Yi-O'Kelly
Your Partner in Our Healing Journey
|Posted on October 7, 2017 at 5:25 PM||comments (2)|
It's a beautiful autumn season in the northern hemisphere but it's been a tough period with so much going on in destruction by both nature and mankind, seeing so much of the opposite of light.
We need to bring the light of our divine spark. It is time to remind ourselves that things are changing, it is going to get better! There is a shift going on Earth and things are starting to improve. We need to spread the word of joy and compassion to create the reality we want; no war, no more violence, no need for competition because there is enough for all of us to live in abundance, with clean air, clean water, clean soil, clean energy and space for everyone where everyone thrives! Let us believe it, let us envision it, and let us expect it!
We don't need to prove anyone wrong, we just need to bring things together and allow it to happen!
|Posted on October 7, 2017 at 5:10 PM||comments (0)|
It’s a good day for healing today!
All that is arising within
yarning to be embraced
yarning to be dissolved
in the cosmic vibration of divine love that we are.
As we touch we heal,
As we smile, we caress,
As we breath, we create the waves of love
As we open our hearts, we transmit the power of love
As we listen, we embrace
As we let go, we reunite!
|Posted on September 22, 2016 at 1:00 AM||comments (4)|
|Posted on September 10, 2016 at 2:00 AM||comments (0)|
It was a Tuesday morning, I remember. I would usually be away from home on client site during the week but that week I was home in Plano, Texas, scheduled to start a new project at a client in Houston the following week. I remember I was standing in the dining room where Seagan and I were working on putting up new wall papers. I don’t remember exactly who told us about the news but what I do recall vividly is feeling my heart sinking deeply and my throat & eyes filled with tears, shocked with horror & terror, totally numbed, seeing the news about the plane crashing into the World Trade Center. I did not know anyone who was there but it reminded me of the shock and the trauma I had gone through six months prior to that day and I felt the pain and sorrow for all those who would be going through the tragic loss of their loved ones because someone chose to react violently in revenge of something that they believed someone else had done to them or their loved ones.
On March 1st, 2001, my mother and my brother was found brutally murdered in their home in Desoto, Texas, by a group of young gangsters who came to hurt my brother. He had a history of drugs and alcohol problems and apparently had dealings with these gangsters that made them want to hurt him and my mother was there and they killed both of them. I saw then that it was two separate incidents in a huge different scale but the same human motive and the same resulting pain & sorrow experienced by those of us who are left behind here on Earth.
Then a flash of thoughts came to me, in the form of a realization or an insight that the world out there is a reflection of our inner world of all of us combined, and that inner peace is what we all need in order to create peace in our world.
Looking back now, 15 years later, it is the same realization that drives me to wake up every day to continue to work on maintaining inner peace for myself and sharing it with as many people as I possibly can. Namaste!
|Posted on June 13, 2016 at 12:00 AM||comments (0)|
When you look at the picture above, what do you see? An old women, a young women, or both?
We see ourselves, others and the world around us based on our beliefs and from those beliefs we make assumptions and perceive ourselves, others and the world around us. Is it possible that we have a choice in the way we see ourselves, others and the world around us?
Is it possible that the world we are experiencing is an illusory reflection of our inner worlds combined?
If you find yourself often in conflict with your loved ones or people around you, or even yourself, if you find yourself seeing “what is wrong” with yourself, your loved ones or people around you more often than “what is right” with yourself, your loved ones or people around you,...
I understand this, I understand it because I used to think & feel that way too for most of my adult life. I questioned "why" in everything I was told to do and tried to make sense out of it all and experienced much frustration and anger from being intolerant of others and their ways....
And then it finally came home to me after being reminded of the possibility that each and every one of us are divine spiritual beings who have chosen to be born on Earth to experience a life of adventure and fun, and to experience joy of creation. Pain & sufferings are included as part of the creation process. But then we arrive here with no memory of whe we really are and there is a veil of forgetfulness. We forgot that it is a game that we had created; a polarity game with made up rules to experience the extreme opposites and all that comes in between;- good & evil, right & wrong, rich & poor, masculine & feminine, spiritual & physical, yin & yang...and all the other dualities you can think of, it is all part of the game on earth that we helped to create.
Well, there you are, I am passing it on to you! You have been reminded to remember the possibility of who you are and why you are here!
As divine sparks, our natural state of being is infinite, healing, loving, peaceful, creative and abundant and our individual realities are experienced according to the thought forms projected through our brains and through our actions, i.e. our words and deeds .
So then, what is in the way of experiencing our divine natural state of being?
Well, we can imagine, as divine sparks living in a human body, we all have some basic needs;
- we have physical needs - food, water, air, rest, shelter, touch, and sexual expression, protection from life threatening forms of life: viruses, bacteria, insects & predatory animals
- emotional & mental needs - play, challenge, fun, choosing dreams/goals/values & plans for fulfilling one’s dreams/goals/values, celebrating life, mourning loss, finding meaning, self-worth, authenticity, creative expression, acceptance, appreciation, closeness, community, consideration, contribution to the enrichment of life, openness, empathy, honesty, love, respect, support, reassurance, trust, understanding
- and we have spiritual needs - beauty, harmony, inspiration, order & peace.
And there are some basic feelings that we all experience depending on whether our needs are fulfilled or not.
- We feel good when our needs are met - Comfortable, Thankful, Confident, Eager, Energetic, Fulfilled, Glad, Hopeful, Inspired, Intrigued, Joyous, Moved, Optimistic, Proud, Relieved, Stimulated, Surprised, Amazed, Touched, Supported
- but we don’t feel so good when they are not - Concerned, Disappointed, Embarrassed, Lonely, Puzzled, Reluctant, Sad, Uncomfortable, Unsupported.
And like any thoughts & feelings, these feelings are temporary in nature, if we choose to let them go. However, when we choose to keep them, we tend to create more of them. Thus, harboring negative thoughts & feelings invites more negative thoughts & feelings and it tends to trigger negative actions that we invariably regret later.
But when we are deprived of our needs through trauma or abrupt changes in our lives, like sudden loss of our loved ones, unexpected job loss or breakup in our relationships, we may feel much stronger feelings that may be expressed in words here; Abandoned, Discouraged, Distressed, Humiliated, Hurt, Inadequate, lost, Rejected, Upset, Grief, Sorrow, Vulnerable, Terror, Horror, Shock, Unworthy, Worthlessness, Shame, Guilt.
At this point, unless we can train our mind & body to heal and let go of these intense and desperate thoughts and feelings and forgive the perpetrator, they can end up being trapped in our memory and drive us to live in fear, in anticipation of our needs being deprived for the rest of our lives. And these fears may well arouse even stronger feelings than the original feelings triggered from the initial deprivation event; Anger, Aggression, Anxiety, Worry, Confusion, Defensiveness, Desperation, Doubt, Depression, Distrust, Dread, Frustration, Helplessness, Hopelessness, Impatience, Insecurity, Jealousy, Nervousness, Overwhelmed, Panic, Pessimism, Timidity.
Furthermore, when we are unable to forgive and continue to harbor these negative thoughts & feelings, they tend to generate more desperate needs that trigger even more and stronger feelings following the initial deprivation event, creating a spiral effect of negative thoughts & emotions that may end up causing health challenges and/or violence in many cases. In my experience, I found that at the root of these strong feelings are some desperate needs triggered by fear; a desperate need to control others - being intolerant of others and wanting them to change, a desperate need for revenge, a desperate need to condemn, blame and punish the perpetrator, and a desperate need to win at any cost. So until we can heal and release these negative thought patterns & emotions, our inner peace will remain unattainable. It has also been my experience that these thought patterns and trapped emotions get passed down from one generation to the next as well as passed between close family members.
When we have attained our inner peace by healing all that is not at ease within ourselves, we have attained our wholeness where we are physically energized, mentally focused, emotionally connected and spiritually aligned. And as we feel our wholeness, we are able to recognize the guidance offered by Divine Spirit in choosing our actions to realize our dreams.
So then, is it possible that our healing journey is simply remembering who we are, restoring our inner light, our divine spark and expanding & growing that light to heal that part of ourselves that is not at ease? And at the same time holding that space for others to do the same? Is it possible when we can let go of those thoughts and feelings that are in the way of the divine natural state of being, we are able choose to experience adventure and fun in realizing our dreams? Perhaps, it may well be possible to choose to create and experience Heaven here on Earth right now!
|Posted on November 26, 2015 at 2:30 AM||comments (2)|
What is holistic fitness and why does one need it?
Holistic fitness goes beyond physical fitness to attain unity of mind, body and divine spirit in order to complete our destiny, one’s life purpose, bringing greater joy to one’s life. In fact, one can be physically fit but not necessarily be holistically fit! With an open heart and mind, one is able to discover our true nature which is peaceful and compassionate, and also to discover the infinite potential of one’s brain. Each and every one of us has a part to contribute to this world to create a better planet. The place to start is with oneself.
All human beings are born with a powerful brain and have a destiny to fulfill in this life time, but our brain can get tarnished by negative life experiences. However, when we have a dream, our brain is able to recover its original power, its original state of perfection. Almost everyone has some idea of what they would like to be like physically, mentally and spiritually, and if we can visualize it, feel it and be it, we can manifest it by taking right actions. Through regular practice of yoga and meditation, we are able to attain contentment and clarity in our state of being and are able to focus our minds in creating the reality of our dreams thus finding our soul’s purpose and achieving our dreams. To that end Holistic Healing & Yoga offers a unique combination of programs designed to help our clients maintain their holistic fitness to promote inner peace for health & vitality. In addition to regular practice of Holistic Yoga and Healing meditation programs, HHY offers Master Heart Coaching Program to help our clients realize their dreams and Aikido practice which is a form of healing marshal arts that allows participants to experience unification of mind, body, and spirit whilst working with a partner. Check out the website to learn more about the introductory webinar on HHY programs
|Posted on August 28, 2015 at 2:25 AM||comments (1)|
Born in South Korea, at the age fifteen, I moved to Southern Africa with my mother, two brothers and a sister to join my father in Orapa, Botswana, a diamond mind where he worked. Although we reunited with my father after 9 years of separation, I experienced loneliness of separation from my friends and relatives in Korea as well as difficulty in learning to speak English. Then when I was twenty one my birth family emmigrated to USA but I could not accompany them due to US immigration law and I ended up living in South Africa for 22 years, completing my formal education, building a professional career, getting married, having two children, getting divorced & remarried and finally getting a job offer to relocate to USA with immigration visa for my family.
My transformation journey began more than 20 years ago in South Africa when I began practicing meditation soon after my youngest brother passed from brain cancer while he was in the US army. I believe that his spiritual energy guided me to meet a Tantric monk who became my yoga & meditation teacher. Within 6 weeks of consistent daily practice, I was able to enter into the blissful state of being enveloped in white light. Since then I practiced Tantric yoga & meditation daily while raising my family and working full time in the IT industry for more than 10 years. It helped me to cope not only with work stress and challenges of raising a family after a divorce but also to pull through the trauma & grief I experienced soon after reuniting with my birth family in the USA. Every night, I would practice meditation to let go of all stressful thoughts and emotions before going to sleep and every morning I would practice asana followed by meditation to release all fear & tension and was able to start each day with a clean slate. And it was not until when my son left home as soon as he finished high school, his departure was too abrupt, I was heart broken and I found Holistic Yoga & Vision meditation very powerful in restoring my inner peace and decided to receive further training to be an instructor and healer. But despite of all the intensive training I received, I found that my inner peace was in delicate state that had to be maintained through constant Bowing meditation practice which involved rigorous physical movement.
Since then I had the opportunities to learn and practice Transcendental meditation, Brain Wave Vibration, DanMuDo Basic form (Korean Taichi), Emotion Code, Affirmative Prayer, Healing Code, Energy healing meditation and Guided meditation.
One of the challenges I faced for a long time on this journey had been to be able to see things as they truly are and at the same time to be aware of my own reactive, habitual thoughts & emotions that get triggered whenever certain situations arose. And I found that meditation practice allowed me to go deeper within myself to see the assumptions or preconceptions and beliefs behind those thoughts & emotions, especially the negative ones so that I could discern for the right choice of action in words and deeds.
Holistic Yoga & Vision meditation, Brain Wave Vibration, DanMuDo Basic form (Korean Taichi) and Bowing meditation practice, like any other moving meditation practice, all offered a great relief from the stresses I was experiencing at that time and helped restoring my inner peace, although it was short lived most of the time. They helped me stay in fairly good physical shape too, however, it was Transcendental meditation that helped me to see that my stress was actually caused by my own reaction to what is happening. My emotions were being triggered and get charged under certain situations over and over again, completely blind to see what is as is. While all the other meditation techniques offered a relief from the emotionally charged state of being, it was not until I learned about Emotion code that I was able to release the underlying trapped emotional trigger that was repeatedly causing me to get upset every time certain situation arose. I was able to release more than 60 trapped emotions over 3 month period using this technique. Well, after all that, it is not to say that I no longer get upset but I can say that I am no longer triggered unconsciously and this means that I am now fully aware of myself when things do upset me but I have full control over that emotional energy within myself to express it in any way I consciously choose and this has helped me feel truly empowered and authentic.
Then I discovered Affirmative prayer and Healing code and created Energy Healing Meditation synthesizing the two healing methods. This technique recognizes and uses the power of spoken word, viz. affirmative prayer and I found it to be a quick simple way to release hurt feelings and restore inner peace. You can access the 12min Video recording of the Energy Healing Meditation here. Living as human beings, it has been my experience that we carry a great deal of inner selves; that part of us which we are born with (our personalities with our likes & dislikes), that which we have inherited from our ancestors and that which we have absorbed from others and environment. And in our daily interactions with famiy, friends & coworkers, I found that we say and do things that hurt each other, often unintentionally or unaware, so it is important to release these hurt feelings as and when they arise before they turn into resentment.
Then I came across a Guided meditation technique that helped me to release those stubborn thought patterns or perceptions that interfered with my inner peace, they were like voices in the head. I immediately recognized its powerful healing effect and its simple way to release potentially all that needed to be healed through guided intentions, commands & affirmations. And what followed was the creation of Holistic Healing Meditation program synthesizing all of the healing & meditation techniques I have experienced to date. It is delivered in a series of guided meditation sessions to be practiced over 6 week period to enable one to restore inner peace completely under all circumstances so one can live one’s passion with grace and ease. And since then, my meditation practice has shifted from letting go of interfering thoughts to now recognizing who I am, why I am here, and envisioning & affirming what I choose to create. And I found that it helps to ask for divine guidance and this allows intuitive thoughts to emerge. I found that all meditation practice is healing because it helps to create space within to see oneself as one really is at any given time and to embrace oneself in divine loving attention and this in turn allows one to be able to hold that space for others as well.
Through this blog, my intention was to give the reader an overview of the different meditation practices as I experienced them at different stage of my transformation journey to date and also to serve as a back ground information for the participants of the 6 week Holistic Healing Meditation Program. More specific details of each meditation practices mentioned here are described in the Appendix in the HHM Program Guide.
Looking back now, my goal of meditation has been and will continues to be and that is to be able to focus my attention on whatever I consciously choose so I can consciously express divine love & compassion for myself and others. And it is my view that if and when one can relinquish all that causes uneasiness within oneself with what is, so that one can be fully present in each moment as we live each day, then every day living becomes daily meditation itself by expressing divine love in each present moment in our own unique way.
Kyung Sun Yi-O'Kelly
Your Partner in Our Healing Journey