|Posted on June 3, 2019 at 11:05 AM||comments (5)|
My name is Kyung, I’m a healer & coach and I’ve been helping courageous individuals restore their inner light, divine spark since 2009. I am the creator of holistic healing meditation program and also the author of 7 holistic practices for harmonious living, a self healing journey to freedom. My intention today is to share with you my findings on this journey so far.
You may be wondering, Freedom from what? I mean Freedom from anything that is keeping me from being and feeling my best in this moment and doing my best knowing that all is well and that all my needs will be met today, and my desires, if not today, tomorrow or someday in the future but most importantly knowing that we are all dearly loved as we do so for each other. And any discomfort we may be feeling right now will pass when we work on healing it.
In my self healing journey, I found that practice of yoga, meditation, taichi/gi-gong, dance and martial arts are all very good in that besides being fun, they helped me to create space in my body & mind, becoming aware of my thoughts and emotions in my state of being so that I can discern the right action to take at any given moment, so that I can be in touch with my intuition, my inner guidance.
And I also found that the way I see (or perceive) this world proceeded all that followed in my life experience, so the idea of envisioning a world where everyone thrives was born.
And now, you may be wondering, everyone thriving? Yes, I mean, we can imagine and envision everyone being alive and doing the best one can or being the best one can be and that may be very different from one person to the next.
As divine sparks, no matter what condition we are in human form, we are divine light beings of pure love, pure joy & pure peace, way beyond this physical form, but at the same time, we exist in duality on earth; in light & dark, good and evil, masculine & feminine, rich & poor, sickness & wellness, love & hate, inside and outside, and we may notice how unique each and every one of us is in this human form, each with unique talents or gifts, and each one facing unique challenges, yet we all experience this reality through our physical senses in the same way by seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, touching and feeling. We each have unique likes & dislikes and tend to gravitate towards like minded people, towards those who support our views, and turn away from those who do not. And, we feel good when others agree & support our views but not so good when they do not. When this happens we are identifying ourselves with being in this limited human form and the thoughts & emotions that arise from being attached to all that we are by being human, by our needs & desires.
So in my healing journey, rising beyond good & evil meant, first accepting all that is as is, including myself and everyone around me, as I am and as they are, thereby healing all that is not at ease within myself at any given moment. This has helped me in discerning that which I can and cannot control, so that I can choose to focus my attention on that which I can control. Whenever I find myself unable to do so, I embrace myself, embracing duality that is within myself, to heal and let go.
And as I did so, I realized that the reality I was experiencing was my own creation and that I had the power to control my life experiences, that I could rise beyond duality that is within me, and awaken myself from the world of black & white to a colorful world of diversity, beauty and abundance.
Join me on our self healing journey to freedom, let us envision a world where everyone thrives!
PS This picture was actually created by my 8 year old granddaughter, Berlin, coloring the truck pattern inspired by the pictures of colorful trucks from Pakistan.
|Posted on February 18, 2018 at 9:35 AM||comments (0)|
Prayer to end suffering on earth
May those who are hungry find healthy food to eat
May those who are homeless find comfortable homes to live
May those who are lonely find their companions
May those who are hurt heal fast
May those who are sick recover their health
May those who are grieving let go of their attachment
May those who are in pain, anger, and fear heal themselves
May those who are discouraged recover their courage
May all find clarity, balance, focus, and confidence to live their passion with grace and ease
May love, joy, and peace prevail on earth forever.
|Posted on February 13, 2018 at 1:40 PM||comments (0)|
Gift Exchange - sharing our passion, talents and abilities to the fullest
The idea of Gift Exchange came to me when I started envisioning a world where everyone thrives. Living in a world where everyone is leading a fulfilling life doing what they love, that is, sharing their passion, talents and abilities that they choose with the world and meet their needs and desires at the same time, and spreading joy & compassion in the process.
After our first gathering for the book launch, it became apparent that there are mixed understanding and interpretation of the word “gift” and that there is a need to clarify the meaning used in the "Gift Exchange" before moving forward with it.
According to the English dictionary, the word “gift”, has two or double meanings that is at the source of this confusion;
- the first is where a gift is something, time or material, that is given without compensation, and
- the other is where a gift is somthing you possess within yourself, your passion, talent or abilities that you love to do, be or create
In Korean, there exist two completely separate words to describe the two different meanings so there is no confusion there. The 선물 is to mean those goods or services that you give or receive for free while 재능 is the ability you have that you are good at or you enjoy doing, being or creating.
It is the second meaning that the word “gift” is used in Gift Exchange and Gift Exchang Circle. It's confusing in English because the term or phrase “Gift Exchange” is typically used as the first meaning. And here is another example to hightlight the difference. When I was growing up, whenver someone gave us a gift, 선물, my mother always made sure that we repay them by giving them a gift in another form of similar monatary value so in that sense, for me, the 선물, the gift received for free is never free because it always creates that obligation to pay back. Whereas the 재능, the gift (passion, talent or abilitiy) I share, I feel I deserve to receive the best that life offers and enjoy all that comes my way with gratitude, knowing that all my needs and desires are being met, and spreading joy & compassion in the process.
A Gift Exchange circle is a group coming together with intention to share our gifts, i.e., passion, talents and abilities and meet our needs and desires at the same time and spreading joy & compassion in the process. For some, they may not have specific needs or desires at a given time, and that is the desire in itself, i.e., desire to offer their gifts, talents and abilities without anything in return, it is one’s choice or decision, and not the rule or expectation of the group. As we express ourselves, through the circle, describing the details of our gifts (passion, talents and abilities) we choose to share with others (along with our needs & desires, if we choose to share it), we get to hold that space for each other for healing and creation, envisioning that which is being expressed through the circle.
Now the next item that needs clarification is "Gift card", the term used in "Gift card categories". The gift card is widely used today both in electronic form and plastic card form by retails stores and other businesses offering goods and services. The gift cards are generally purchased by the sender/giver of "gift" to give to the receiver as a present and the receiver can use it in exchange or payment for the goods and services offered by the business that issued them. For DSA, our intention is to allow individual members to be able to issue their own gift card for their gifts (passion, talents or abilities) that they choose to share with others while corporation members can bring the gift cards that they purchase from their employer to exchange with other members through DSA GiftXchange. You can be both members of DSA, individual and corporate, if you choose.
The Divine Spark Allies project is to create a mobile application using the latest technology that can provide the role of Gift Exchange Agent (GEA) that can capture what we specify as our needs & desires along with our gifts, talents and abilities we want to share with others, and provide us with the gift exchange option that we can accept or reject. Once accepted, the GEA is also to capture the feedback or review of the gift exchange results, and provide the complete record of transactions for periodic reporting and audit purpose for each participants.
The gift categories that is proposed to be used are given in Appendix-I of my book, Seven Holistic Practices for Harmonious Living, a Self-Healing Journey to Freedom, available in paperbacks and eBook on Amazon.com.
For more details on the next Gift Exchange Circle check out the webpage for the latest event.
And let us affirm: "I am sharing my gifts, talents and abilities to the fullest and living my dreams", So it is!
Kyung S. Yi-O'Kelly
Your Partner in Our Healing Journey
|Posted on December 23, 2017 at 12:50 AM||comments (1)|
It’s time …
It’s time to remember and acknowledge who we are and why we are here
It’s time to discover what we really want
It’s time to question all that we do, say, and think
It’s time to go deeper to see the original intentions in all that we do, say and think
It’s time to let go of all that is not serving us to love and heal in peace and harmony
It’s time to choose to be, do and have all that we desire
It’s time we had fun in fulfilling our dreams
|Posted on September 22, 2016 at 1:00 AM||comments (4)|
|Posted on June 13, 2016 at 12:00 AM||comments (0)|
When you look at the picture above, what do you see? An old women, a young women, or both?
We see ourselves, others and the world around us based on our beliefs and from those beliefs we make assumptions and perceive ourselves, others and the world around us. Is it possible that we have a choice in the way we see ourselves, others and the world around us?
Is it possible that the world we are experiencing is an illusory reflection of our inner worlds combined?
If you find yourself often in conflict with your loved ones or people around you, or even yourself, if you find yourself seeing “what is wrong” with yourself, your loved ones or people around you more often than “what is right” with yourself, your loved ones or people around you,...
I understand this, I understand it because I used to think & feel that way too for most of my adult life. I questioned "why" in everything I was told to do and tried to make sense out of it all and experienced much frustration and anger from being intolerant of others and their ways....
And then it finally came home to me after being reminded of the possibility that each and every one of us are divine spiritual beings who have chosen to be born on Earth to experience a life of adventure and fun, and to experience joy of creation. Pain & sufferings are included as part of the creation process. But then we arrive here with no memory of whe we really are and there is a veil of forgetfulness. We forgot that it is a game that we had created; a polarity game with made up rules to experience the extreme opposites and all that comes in between;- good & evil, right & wrong, rich & poor, masculine & feminine, spiritual & physical, yin & yang...and all the other dualities you can think of, it is all part of the game on earth that we helped to create.
Well, there you are, I am passing it on to you! You have been reminded to remember the possibility of who you are and why you are here!
As divine sparks, our natural state of being is infinite, healing, loving, peaceful, creative and abundant and our individual realities are experienced according to the thought forms projected through our brains and through our actions, i.e. our words and deeds .
So then, what is in the way of experiencing our divine natural state of being?
Well, we can imagine, as divine sparks living in a human body, we all have some basic needs;
- we have physical needs - food, water, air, rest, shelter, touch, and sexual expression, protection from life threatening forms of life: viruses, bacteria, insects & predatory animals
- emotional & mental needs - play, challenge, fun, choosing dreams/goals/values & plans for fulfilling one’s dreams/goals/values, celebrating life, mourning loss, finding meaning, self-worth, authenticity, creative expression, acceptance, appreciation, closeness, community, consideration, contribution to the enrichment of life, openness, empathy, honesty, love, respect, support, reassurance, trust, understanding
- and we have spiritual needs - beauty, harmony, inspiration, order & peace.
And there are some basic feelings that we all experience depending on whether our needs are fulfilled or not.
- We feel good when our needs are met - Comfortable, Thankful, Confident, Eager, Energetic, Fulfilled, Glad, Hopeful, Inspired, Intrigued, Joyous, Moved, Optimistic, Proud, Relieved, Stimulated, Surprised, Amazed, Touched, Supported
- but we don’t feel so good when they are not - Concerned, Disappointed, Embarrassed, Lonely, Puzzled, Reluctant, Sad, Uncomfortable, Unsupported.
And like any thoughts & feelings, these feelings are temporary in nature, if we choose to let them go. However, when we choose to keep them, we tend to create more of them. Thus, harboring negative thoughts & feelings invites more negative thoughts & feelings and it tends to trigger negative actions that we invariably regret later.
But when we are deprived of our needs through trauma or abrupt changes in our lives, like sudden loss of our loved ones, unexpected job loss or breakup in our relationships, we may feel much stronger feelings that may be expressed in words here; Abandoned, Discouraged, Distressed, Humiliated, Hurt, Inadequate, lost, Rejected, Upset, Grief, Sorrow, Vulnerable, Terror, Horror, Shock, Unworthy, Worthlessness, Shame, Guilt.
At this point, unless we can train our mind & body to heal and let go of these intense and desperate thoughts and feelings and forgive the perpetrator, they can end up being trapped in our memory and drive us to live in fear, in anticipation of our needs being deprived for the rest of our lives. And these fears may well arouse even stronger feelings than the original feelings triggered from the initial deprivation event; Anger, Aggression, Anxiety, Worry, Confusion, Defensiveness, Desperation, Doubt, Depression, Distrust, Dread, Frustration, Helplessness, Hopelessness, Impatience, Insecurity, Jealousy, Nervousness, Overwhelmed, Panic, Pessimism, Timidity.
Furthermore, when we are unable to forgive and continue to harbor these negative thoughts & feelings, they tend to generate more desperate needs that trigger even more and stronger feelings following the initial deprivation event, creating a spiral effect of negative thoughts & emotions that may end up causing health challenges and/or violence in many cases. In my experience, I found that at the root of these strong feelings are some desperate needs triggered by fear; a desperate need to control others - being intolerant of others and wanting them to change, a desperate need for revenge, a desperate need to condemn, blame and punish the perpetrator, and a desperate need to win at any cost. So until we can heal and release these negative thought patterns & emotions, our inner peace will remain unattainable. It has also been my experience that these thought patterns and trapped emotions get passed down from one generation to the next as well as passed between close family members.
When we have attained our inner peace by healing all that is not at ease within ourselves, we have attained our wholeness where we are physically energized, mentally focused, emotionally connected and spiritually aligned. And as we feel our wholeness, we are able to recognize the guidance offered by Divine Spirit in choosing our actions to realize our dreams.
So then, is it possible that our healing journey is simply remembering who we are, restoring our inner light, our divine spark and expanding & growing that light to heal that part of ourselves that is not at ease? And at the same time holding that space for others to do the same? Is it possible when we can let go of those thoughts and feelings that are in the way of the divine natural state of being, we are able choose to experience adventure and fun in realizing our dreams? Perhaps, it may well be possible to choose to create and experience Heaven here on Earth right now!
|Posted on December 11, 2015 at 11:55 AM||comments (0)|
Let us forgive, forgive ourselves for hurting others! We may or may not have intended it, let us forgive ourselves! We may not have known that we are divine sparks, and we were mistaken to retaliate or may not have been aware that our actions hurt others. Perhaps, we were hurt by a bully and needed to express our hurt feelings. It is easy to blame and become a victim. Perhaps, we were too passionate & overpowering, being a bully as we express ourselves. It is easy being a bully when we are passionate & not aware of others. Let us forgive, forgive ourselves for hurting others! We may or may not have intended it, let us forgive ourselves! Namaste!
|Posted on December 5, 2015 at 3:10 PM||comments (0)|
Let us forgive, forgive those who are hurting us, for they may or may not know who they are, they may have forgotten who they really are and they may or may not be aware that they are hurting us. Let us forgive them and show them by example who we all are, a divine spark of love experiencing life on Earth in a human body. As a divine spark, living in a human body, we all have needs, some more desperate than others, depending on our past life experiences. While we all need to protect ourselves from harms way, we need not retaliate and cause more harm. The act of retaliation is from those who do not know who we are. We can negotiate and find a harmonious solution to all problems we have created as a result of forgetting who we are! Let us forgive, forgive those who are hurting us, for they may or may not know who they are, they may have forgotten who they really are and they may not be aware that they are hurting us. Let us forgive them and show them by example who we all are, a divine spark of love experiencing life on Earth in a human body. Namaste!
|Posted on November 30, 2015 at 8:30 PM||comments (0)|
Love is holding on when you feel like letting go
Love is letting go when you feel like holding on
Love is knowing when to choose silence
Love is sincere
Love is kind
Love is patient
Love is forgiving
Love is gratitude
Love is having fun
Love is now
Love is eternal
Love is You!
|Posted on November 26, 2015 at 2:30 AM||comments (2)|
What is holistic fitness and why does one need it?
Holistic fitness goes beyond physical fitness to attain unity of mind, body and divine spirit in order to complete our destiny, one’s life purpose, bringing greater joy to one’s life. In fact, one can be physically fit but not necessarily be holistically fit! With an open heart and mind, one is able to discover our true nature which is peaceful and compassionate, and also to discover the infinite potential of one’s brain. Each and every one of us has a part to contribute to this world to create a better planet. The place to start is with oneself.
All human beings are born with a powerful brain and have a destiny to fulfill in this life time, but our brain can get tarnished by negative life experiences. However, when we have a dream, our brain is able to recover its original power, its original state of perfection. Almost everyone has some idea of what they would like to be like physically, mentally and spiritually, and if we can visualize it, feel it and be it, we can manifest it by taking right actions. Through regular practice of yoga and meditation, we are able to attain contentment and clarity in our state of being and are able to focus our minds in creating the reality of our dreams thus finding our soul’s purpose and achieving our dreams. To that end Holistic Healing & Yoga offers a unique combination of programs designed to help our clients maintain their holistic fitness to promote inner peace for health & vitality. In addition to regular practice of Holistic Yoga and Healing meditation programs, HHY offers Master Heart Coaching Program to help our clients realize their dreams and Aikido practice which is a form of healing marshal arts that allows participants to experience unification of mind, body, and spirit whilst working with a partner. Check out the website to learn more about the introductory webinar on HHY programs